The Secret to Developing Resilience – Part 1: Parents & Professionals

In this two-part video, following an NLP4Kids event, I share half of the tips we generated for developing resilience in a child or young person. Here’s a breakdown of what’s included in part 1: Responsibility – Developing responsibility creates an internal strength and faith that challenges can be[…]

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Developing Respect: Parents & Professionals

Before requesting respect, your young people need to know that your definitions of the word are aligned. For many children, the word ‘respect’ may be used to request that they follow instructions without challenge or that they agree with someone and neither of these are good examples of[…]

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Spotting Separation Anxiety

We’re going to look at where separation anxiety usually begins and how to manage it.    For those of you who are members of the parents and professionals’ membership, you may have already seen the video of Priya Amlani and me talking about school refusal. This is a[…]

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Our Resilient Family: Parents & Professionals

A covert and effective way to develop a resilient family and classroom is to use every good example from history (and there are many of them!). We do not have to look back too many generations to find great examples of resilience and creativity in problem-solving and these[…]

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Stop Assuming You Know

Sometimes when we’re busy having our own experiences and feelings about what’s going on in the world, we assume that we know what’s going on for others too. This is an easy mistake to make when it comes to dealing with children and young people as often we’ve[…]

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Responsibility For Anxiety: Parents & Professionals

Whilst I’m an advocate for getting young people to take responsibility, I recognise how knowing a fair bit about mental health and anxiety-related issues make me want to jump in and problem-solve! I also notice (as I’m sure you have experienced yourselves in other aspects of life) that[…]

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Three Anxiety Voices in Your Head: Children and Young People

Most of us are aware that there is often an internal dialogue – a chit chat that we have with ourselves that is commentating on our observations, experiences and emotions. That inner voice can sometimes make a bad situation worse by providing unnecessary dramatic interpretations and narration of[…]

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Humiliation Does Not Work: Parents & Professionals

When dealing with an overly confident, arrogant young person, it can be tempting to humble them by taking an opportunity to humiliate them and you may even feel justified in taking this action. If you think back on your own life experiences, you will likely remember a time[…]

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Help Young People Make Decisions: Parents & Professionals

As well as sharing a decision making strategy with you, we’ll be reflecting on NLP4Kids from seven years ago. Back in the pre-covid days, I used to run an even in London where I would do a demonstration of a decision making strategy to encourage people who were[…]

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Coping with Change: Children and Young People

As you brace for school transition (or any other kind of change) it can be unsettling and create a sense of uncertainty. We often think of uncertainty negatively, and yet it is a very important experience to help us grow. Growth rarely comes without uncertainty!  However, when change[…]

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