The Secret to Developing Resilience – Part 1: Parents & Professionals
In this two-part video, following an NLP4Kids event, I share half of the tips we generated for developing resilience in a child or young person. Here’s a breakdown of what’s included in part 1:
Responsibility – Developing responsibility creates an internal strength and faith that challenges can be tackled and taken on.
Confidence and self-esteem are not the same as resilience (it is possible for them to co-exist independently from each other) and yet there appears to be a greater likelihood of being resilient if confidence and self-esteem are present. This may be because they are laced with positivity that makes being resilient seem worthwhile.
Knowing ‘I’ll be ok no matter what.” – There is an acceptance of the current circumstances in this statement whilst still having the ability to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Resilient role models – having references for others who have been through challenging times in the fitter and not only lived to tell the tale but went from surviving to thriving can give hope and inspiration.
Answering your own questions – This encourages young people to become independent thinkers and problem solvers.
Model vulnerability – In a digital world where everything looks perfect, it’s important to demonstrate that being fearful or worried in tricky situations is perfectly acceptable.
Feedback sandwiches – This allows messages of improvement to be delivered in a way that they are more easily digested.
Humour – Humour is a great way of reframing difficult situations and taking things less seriously and stressfully. Don’t underestimate the power of this one.
Reflect and accept failure – Rather than believing that failure is a sign that something hasn’t worked, use it as a method for feedback and acceptance.
Stop comparing – Technology is great but it does encourage us to compare ourselves to others’ unachievable standards. (They’re unachievable because they’re not real!)
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